A girl is easily manipulated by her emotions. When she is in a bad mood, she always likes to find someone to talk to. Going to comfort her at this time is actually a good time to gain a good impression. But if a girl always comes to you to complain and complain, and after you comfort her emotions, she becomes cold, then she probably treats you as an emotional trash can. What should you do in this case?
Many times a girl is angry and troubled , it’s all because of some trivial things in life. When she comes to you to complain, it’s okay for you to comfort her. However, many boys easily magnify these small things and rush to ask girls why they are unhappy. If you treat comforting a girl as a big deal and try your best to help her solve it, it is easy to fall into the "comfort mode".
For example, if a girl quarreled with a friend and complained to you, you could criticize her casually, saying, "You are just too kind" and "This friend of yours has no good character." But in fact, although the grievance she said was just to express the dissatisfaction of her friends, your words and actions that seemed to be for the girl's sake were just mindlessly protecting and caring for her, which was worthless behavior.
You must understand that girls’ little emotions are short-lived and girls can digest them on their own. This approach of rushing to comfort girls will not impress girls. Instead, it will make girls feel that your concern is cheap and make you feel inferior in front of girls.
How to tell whether a girl treats you as an emotional trash can?
When a girl chats with you, chat The content almost entirely revolves around herself. She doesn't care about your feelings and keeps telling you about recent troubles. Although she asks you "what to do" from time to time, she doesn't think the ideas you give are good enough, and even thinks that you She will be angry with you if your idea is not to her liking.
If a girl complains about you just You treat her as an emotional trash can and cannot comfort her, but ignoring her can easily lead to a stalemate in the relationship.
Don’t deal with girls. Girls can detect it and if they notice your impatience, they will feel that you hate her and are not as nice to her as before, which will deepen her negative emotions. Your relationship may also deteriorate.
The correct way is to make the girl happy, ask her out to relax, go shopping, or go to a movie together. Use these ways to make her happy and you can be there to bond with her.
When a girl comes to you to complain and share her negative emotions, she may not trust you. She may just want someone to talk to. At this time, don’t accept her negative emotions blindly. Emotions express understanding, such as:
I am so confused about the future. What I want is nothing, what should I do?
When will I become rich and live a good life? Life?
How can I prevent myself from regretting in the future? Life is so boring now
When faced with such illusory complaints from girls, don’t go along with them. Instead, you can say to girls: Aren’t we just working hard now? I don’t understand what you think. Because girls only treat you as a trash can for their feelings when they are hot and cold towards you. Even if you make the girl happy, the relationship between the girl and you is not equal, and the girl will not be interested in you.